degradation/ breakdown/ inefficiency/ antiquity of the family unit

It seems like for most of recorded history, people lived in small
bands of people, who over time, came together to form micro cultures,
probably do to commonalities those "individuals" had at the time. I'm
trying to pinpoint a time when a family type structure became the most
efficient way for humans to pass on their genes to the next
generation. I guess it's not really possible, and it doesn't even
matter because the family unit is already a thing of the past.

The perfect family is what everyone wants...but that fantasy of
perfection is far from reality. The notion that other people will love
and support you in spite of everything are comforting, yet not
reality.

These ideals of functioning nuclear families seem mostly constructed
thanks to disney and 50s "pop ethics," when christianity started to
get forced on people through new media at the time, mainly movies and
the invention of the television. Although they are fun and interesting
from an anthropological perspective, they are now a thing of the past.
It's not the 90s anymore, and people know that the nuclear family
model isn't reality. Forever never existed, and "for the rest of our
lives" was uttered in tongue in cheek way in the first place.

Couples today rarely stay together because they don't have to. That is
to say people are getting more real about love and accepting the fact
that the fantasy of pure real love was not only a lie our parents told
us, it's not even humanly possible. Obviously everyone wants to meet
the perfect person, fall in love, and then spend the rest of their
lives together, but nobody does it, I guess people have their reasons.
There's all those studies that say humans are by nature not
monogamous, and and since no family looks like the culturally
constructed paradigm, the family structure is hence becoming a thing
of the past. It seems like when the parents stay together, they're
miserable and dysfunctional, and they always stop having sex, which is
what brought 2 people together in the first place. With the absence of
passion, intimacy falls by the way side and it makes sense. "Why
should I give a shit about someone if the newness has worn off and I'm
no longer attracted/ want to fuck them anymore?"

It seems like families only cause problems. The older generation, no
longer able to contribute anything to the world, starts to drain more
and more resources. I often wonder why we choose to "respect" the
elderly cause I think they're fucking disgusting. After all, they're
the generation that INVENTED homophobia, created the evil empire of
american capitalism that holds so many people in bondage, resisted
progress, ruined the environment... do you really want to go on? I
guess I'm one of those people who only respects other if they're worth
it.

Besides, western culture worships youth as the most important source
of power nowadays, so it seems like veneration for the elderly will
soon be replaced with contempt and disrespect. There's nothing they
can do for us any longer... just let them die, and bury the dead hand
of the past with them. Does everyone really want to relive trivial
histories and struggles from the past? One can't argue history is
relevant, if it were there would have been only one conflict, one
problem, one genocide, one indiscretion.

In families, the older becomes dependent on the younger, who are
expected to take care of them. If anyone thinks I'm going to take care
of my parents, especially in monetary terms, they're fucking crazy. I
could give a fuck less what happens to them. It's weird when money
comes into play, because it just makes people's motivations more
transparent. Perhaps the reason would be pure self-interest, but then
again I never got a fair shot at success, which is why I'm
unsuccessful, and I know money does not have to be shared among family
members.

Love doesn't mean all your problems will all of a sudden disappear, in
fact the opposite is true, and the people you love have problems that
all of a sudden become your additional problems piled on top of the
previously existing ones. Love between family members is an emotion
automatically assumed to be true in society, but as we can observe
both in our own lives, as well as in the lives of those humans living
in other cultures in other places around the world, the love may or
may not be real. Often, love is twisted and used for dubious means,
like covering up sexual abuse, or to support people's addictions to
hard drugs such as speed or crack.

It makes me sad to everyone around me coming from fractured families.
The only modern comfort comes from money. Is money the only real
factor as to what will decided people's happiness and success, or dark
feelings and perpetual failure? I guess living in a metropolitan city,
I can observe the new ways people choose to make families. It's weird
how people find their other family members, but since it was
self-determined, it's the only thing that's real...