Darrin Goodness's tips for bottoming

I tell others that I am an oral top, and that's the truth... cause I'll suck your dick and eat you out, but then I want to fuck that ass after. I only bottom for boyfriends, or someone I'm close to because it takes a lot of trust to let someone go down there and get freaky.

But the real truth is that I am a true versatile. I rarely fuck, but I like to get fucked just as much as I love fucking. It seems as though people who are really into top and bottom roles most likely are suffering from internalized homophobia. I don't feel the same everyday, and don't really see how others could. Always 50/50 in relationships.

What people really fail to realize is that the all anal interludes we enjoy thru porn are totally not reality! A lot of time and effort goes into bottoming... unless you're older and been fucked by many guys over the course of many years, things like that don't just happen. Bottoms rule! It gets messy... put a towel down.

When I was young I just automatically assumed I would hate being fucked and it would never feel good, and for many years that was the case. I was always blown away by some guys ability to really take it hard, and in every position, nobody from my generation can claim that porn did not have a significant impact to the way they view sex and sexuality. However, as I've gotten older and more time passes, I've found that getting fucked right by a good dick can be amazing and make me cum really hard!

rule number 0- safe sex is not something that's up for debate! Be safe and live long enough to find the right one. I have never let a man fuck me raw even once in my entire life even though I have been in multiple long term relationships. Long story short, guys were dirty and picking things up here and there. Your sexual health is not something to take lightly! Sex can kill and it's been so since I was born. Obviously, if you and you man are in it for the long haul, and you are absolutely sure that you and he are not messing around with other people you may choose to have raw sex.

1. Practice makes perfect! In order to be able to accommodate a penis inside your asshole one must get a toy to learn how to be able to relax and what to feel. I personally think the only dildos that one can work with are the really soft and squishy jelly ones... the only thing that sucks is you probably still have to put a condom on it. Better yet let your partner loosen you up. Thrusting is not really an aspect of loosening up. If you're laying on your back, always make sure it goes in and then up towards your crotch- that's the proper way to hit the prostate. It helps a lot if you clean yourself out back there. Don't mess with the ass if you're having digestive issues that day.

2. If you want to fuck an ass you better be ready to eat it out first! If you have a full beard be careful cause the skin back there can get broken easily. Younger guys can get rimmed for longer periods of time... it feels better to them because they still have more sensation overall back there. Older guys just want their ass licked for a minute or two and then they want the dick.

3. Nobody knows why, but everyone assumes that bottoms like fingering. I've never really met one who has sung the the praises of it but it can feel good if the guy knows how to do it right. Make sure your fingernails are cut the fuck back and hang nails are not present! If a guy knows how to stimulate your prostate you can cum really hard from fingering- really fat fingers can feel good if you go in then pull up and keep stimulating the boy g spot. Spit can work but it doesn't hold up.

4. Use a lot of lube and make sure some of get some inside the hole. Even if the guy is uncut, an anus is not able to lubricate on its own, so you need some help in that department. In all honesty numbing cream can be your friend, although some people think it can be dangerous cause you don't realize if things are getting torn up or not.

5. The only way to get a dick inside me is for me to sit on it. I don't know about y'all, but after I can get a little more relaxed then we can change positions, but if the dick comes out, then I have to sit on it again. There's 2 sphincters- the internal and the external... the external is easier to learn to relax, it's the internal muscle that is always clenched up. When I fuck a guy I don't thrust too much, cause I know it doesn't feel good. The best way to fuck is to just go deep, and then pull up. If you really get all the way in and then gently and really slowly move your dick up and around inside it will stimulate the prostate and not just push and pull on the skin lining the entrance to the asshole, which burns and gets irritated. That way, the base of your cock is putting all the pressure on your bottom's prostate and that feels a lot better than just getting fucked.

6. Bigger really is better, especially when we're talking about girth. In my experiences, smaller dicks poke around the walls on the inside, so things aren't really hitting right. Really big dicks just kind of fill everything up from the inside, and I suppose put more pressure on the prostate, so it feels better overall.

7. Bottoms rule! If you're allowing a man to put his penis inside you, that means all of a sudden you are in charge that cock. If he is thrusting too much, or it's not feeling good take control! It's up to you to communicate to him whether or not he's making you feel good, and a good top makes sure his bottom cums hard with a dick in the ass. That's how one becomes a good fuck.

8. Drugs and alcohol should be avoided during sex, if you need a substance to be able to perform that means you have a sexual dysfunction which is unhealthy and more importantly you can end up damaging tissue.

I personally like kissing, jerking, and sucking the best. I like to be playful and innocent with guys, but everyone likes something different. If you find someone you like and want to do everything with that person, make sure communication is open and honest. Getting fucked is supposed to feel good, not be a daunting task from which nobody receives pleasure...